I also have three fantastic housemates, two of whom are in a couple.
Before they started dating (also before I started dating my current partner), I had really strong feelings for one of them and had to work through a lot of sadness and jealousy when I heard about their relationship.
It’s understandable that you felt too flustered and embarrassed to address the issue in the moment, but you should absolutely set up a meeting with her and make it clear that it’s wildly inappropriate for her to go through anyone else’s medication at work—labeled or otherwise—and that it is a potentially fireable offense.
If your office has an HR department, you should bring them into the conversation, because (once again!
My administrative assistant asked for some pain relievers, and I opened my desk drawer and shared from a labeled, over-the-counter bottle of acetaminophen.
I saw her staring at the unlabeled bottle in the drawer.
He almost got in a fight with venue security when he tried to leave with an open beer. The wedding was big enough that I don’t think most people knew the extent, but I regret that I didn’t have more plans for “handling” him.His abysmal behavior has really soured my memories of the day.I have been unable to sit down with my husband and select photos for our album, because I get so angry at my father, but I’m so much angrier at myself.Sometimes I think I don’t want it to go away, anyway; I don’t always have a lot of feelings with depression, so there’s something nice about having these intense emotions, even if they’re hard to handle. My wish for you and your girlfriend is not to live in a state of unresolved, unexpressed, unrequitable longing; nor is it for the two of you to get involved, either physically or emotionally, in a live-in open relationship with your housemates right now.Being hit by constant waves of sadness and jealousy just from looking at your housemates is, to say the least, suboptimal, and you acknowledge that you’re depleting your own mental and emotional reserves trying to manage this situation, even with the support of your girlfriend and a therapist.